Pine-Wave Energy: A Guide to Conflict Resolution
Author
Robert. J. Norton
Author Bio
Born in England, Robert Norton started learning karate from a young age. From early on, he came to the realization that he thought beyond his years. At age seventeen, he founded the martial art known as Shoto-Chi (Pine-Wave Energy). He wanted to develop an art that would constantly evolve based around those he taught. He wanted his art to be built upon a philosophy of change allowing each student to grow within their own mind in order to find their own approach and reach their true potential.
While developing Shoto-Chi, Rob made the decision to get more hands-on regarding learning about human behavior and conflict. He worked as a doorman/bouncer and discovered how, through the understanding of human behavior and effective communication styles, he had the ability to control conflict and bring conflicts to a resolute state without the use of force in most instances. This grew his passion for understanding how and why people do things. He discovered that he was able to help people calm down while in a heightened emotional state. He also started to learn more about seeing things through the perception of others. Rob also trained in close protection. In 1999, he became recognized in England as a founder of a unique martial art.
Rob now resides in Canada with his wife and son. Twenty-four years after founding Shoto-Chi and studying human behavior, he decided to write a book that helps people understand the dynamics of conflict and the power of effective communication through the understanding of perception and emotions. His passion for teaching is evident in his teaching style.
Description
Pine-Wave Energy: A Guide to Conflict Resolution provides a simplistic yet realistic guide to understanding and resolving conflict in normal day-to-day life, with both ourselves and others.
It is a tool to understanding perception within conflict, how emotions become the catalyst for conflict, communication styles, and personality types. It shares effective techniques regarding verbal and nonverbal communication. This is inclusive of the systematically developed QSC strategy for effective verbal communication that can be used in both personal and professional environments.
We take a logical approach that provides a proactive guide aimed at resolving conflict prior to physical engagement, whenever possible. By reading this book, my goal is for you to gain a greater understanding of conflict resolution, an understanding that we all see things differently, but if we work toward a common goal, then a resolution can be achieved. Most of the contents of this book are aimed at providing you with the knowledge and confidence to look at conflict resolution as something that is obtainable in the best interests of all parties.
After looking into the emotional aspect of conflict, we then look at grasping the concept of perception. This is a fun exercise in understanding the simple concept that we all see things differently. We live different lives through our senses. We experience different things but one thing is for sure—the majority of people on this planet do not enjoy conflict. As we all know, most conflicts do not go physical and the largest form of conflict is that with ourselves. That’s right! Ourselves.
By learning effective conflict resolution, you start to put yourself in a better place. The more confident you become in yourself, the better chance you have in resolving conflict with others. Shoto-Chi (a.k.a. Pine-Wave Energy) takes a few steps back from the conventional martial arts world and looks at taking a proactive approach toward resolving conflict by teaching methods of resolution prior to the physical stage whenever possible. This is done so through the understanding of human behavior.
It is not a book based around combat. Even though it does briefly touch base on the controlling of personal space when there is a perceived or actual physical threat, it is in no way meant as an instruction manual for actual combat. It introduces the basics of the dynamic technique known as the Fence. This technique has been developed over many years of studying human behavioral patterns. This technique integrates NLP (neurolinguistic programming) to assist in the control of one’s personal space.
In order to resolve the conflict in the best interest of all involved we must learn how to effectively negotiate. Words can be your most powerful tool or your worst weapon so remember positive input produces positive output.
Book excerpt
Conflict is a result of an emotional response toward a specific subject. One quote I always use while teaching is “There is no truth, only the perception of truth.” It is our perception of what is truth in our own mind that dictates our emotional response. In conflict these emotional responses are what initiates frustration, anger and other heightened emotional states.
It is also these heightened emotions in conjunction with the personality type that dictate the nature of the conflict. Someone with a calm approach to conflict will be able to tolerate more, show less emotion, and control their choice of words. However, just because this type of personality is calm on the outside doesn’t always reflect what is going on in their mind. The difference is their level of self-control.
Conflict is a result of a difference of opinion, a different perception, a different emotional response, and a different take on what is right. We have touched base already on the ability to resolve conflict means that one person must have the desire to resolve versus continue. Most people within conflict just want to be right, to prove their point, and to disregard the opinion and feelings of those they are in conflict with. It is a little hard to find a peaceful resolution when those within the conflict just have to be right at all costs!
So let’s delve into the emotional state within conflict. What make us have an emotional response?
Well, it is our history that allows us to place an emotional response to everything we see, do, and hear. These emotions help guide us through life, but it these very emotions that can create conflict not just with others but also with ourselves. When we look at ourselves, and I mean really look at ourselves, we see just how many conflicts we have in the space of a single day. From the time the alarm goes off in the morning to the time we finally close our eyes and go to sleep, our brain is in constant decision mode. Are these decisions a conflict? They are to some degree, depending upon what the choice happens to be.
The alarm goes off and we hit the snooze button. We then start the decision process of getting out of bed right away or just hanging in there until the snooze alarm goes off again. When we finally crawl out of bed, we think about what clothes to wear. Now this is certainly a lot harder choice for some versus others, but I think you understand a little about the minor conflict we start our day with. As the day progresses, the decisions become a little harder. They become a little less routine and therefore a little more difficult. Just imagine for a second you decided to press that snooze button one too many times and now you are late for work. You now have to make the choice between breakfast and heading straight out the door…
That’s right! Conflict is a result of our emotional reaction to circumstances. But emotions are a choice. Certainly not an easy choice at times, but by taking just a few second to digest information, we can approach conflict calmer.
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