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When We Deny Ourselves Words, We are Committing Self-Harm

July 16, 2019 by Bekka Lee Trapp 6 Comments

We have all experienced the dreaded stagnation, avoidance, guilt, panic, and/or anxiety filled [panged!] procrastination of finding that we somehow have gone days, weeks, or even months without completing a book. Further, for the writers out there, when we halt our work and introspection, we know that we often suffer. For readers and writers, like us, we find not only our enjoyment, recreation, inspiration, but truly a large part of our identities wrapped up in our ability and skill with words. So, what becomes us when the reader isn’t reading? Who is the writer who has failed to put pen to paper or words to a screen?

Here, I can attest to my own melancholia: a restless, angsty, and defensive posture I have taken throughout multiple reading and writing slumps. Importantly, I have discovered that when I am going through an extended decline or hiatus it is generally caused by something internal that I am working through. Sadly, denying myself the joy of reading or writing seems to be something that the unhealthy part of me enjoys doing as a low-level form of abuse. Abuse? You may question, surely that is an extreme word to use here. However, I assert that there is a difference between the gaps we must all take from our craft [here I am combining reading and writing together, for as Stephen King famously declared: “If you don’t have time to read, you don’t have the time (or the tools) to write. Simple as that.”] for real-world preoccupations: family, health, work distractions and priorities and the times when we move away from acts that bring us joy. This second part is my focus here, whether we are going through a form of procrastination, perfectionism, or are stuck in the pit-falls of general numbness; when readers and writers stop interacting with language they are harming themselves.

First, let’s look at the example of perfectionism. Whether one is feeling like they cannot keep up with their personal reading goal [sometimes, I admit my goal on Goodreads seems to taunt me] or one starts to doubt their own writing abilities, many writers are by nature prone to bouts of perfectionism abuse. On this subject, I offer Anne Wilson Shaef’s statement: “perfectionism is self-abuse of the highest order.” I have experienced this crippling and torment-filled state many times myself. On top of my own experiences, I have worked with countless students who refuse to send me their college writing work until it is “good enough for me to see.” I often beg and order them to just send it. “Believe me,” I tell them, “I have seen it all, I am sure it is at a stage where we can work on it together!” They balk and attempt to slither away from me, the conversation, and possibly the entire writing assignment altogether. If the student is to pass they must overcome this perfectionism. I generally help them achieve this with help both in encouragement and in editing their work. Here, you too [regardless of whether you are a reader, writer, or both] can use someone else to help you stop exit the perfectionist state and move into a happier and healthier one. For more ideas on that, look to my article “13 Ways to Overcome a Reading Slump.”

Perfectionism and procrastination often go hand-in-hand. Procrastination can be a symptom of perfectionism, an “analysis paralysis,” if you will. However, sometimes there are other reasons for procrastination; for example, poor time management or organization skills. For readers and writers, it is inherent that we carve out time to commit ourselves to our passion! Whether you follow a 15 minutes a day for reading, journaling, writing, what-have-you, some structure will relieve the soul that carries such a creative force.

Lastly, I mentioned numbness as a cause for delaying us with our true joy. When I am suffering through bouts of ennui, I often do all of the above and the reason for this perfectionism, procrastination, and general listlessness, is because I am desensitizing myself from feeling something. It would serve us all better to recognize in-action as a symptom, rather than allowing it to prolong into a serious or long-term period of inactivity and unhappiness.

Again, of course there are completely valid reasons for writers and readers to need or desire breaks from these activities. Yet, it is also important to listen to our hearts and find out what the root cause for these “breaks” may be. If the decline in drive is due to one of the above reasons, then it is important to root out that cause earlier rather than later. Ultimately, I can only speak for myself when I say that my love of words is one of the best forms of self-care I can give myself.

Tell me below how you overcome the woes of reading or writing slumps?

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  1. B.T. Joy says

    May 30, 2019 at 10:01 am

    This is the sort of article I love to read. It’s very generative of new ideas on the subject of just why it is that lifelong writers go through their periods of hiatus. My favourite reason for a long pause in writing came from Gerard Manley Hopkins who, in 1868, the year he began his Jesuit noviciate, burned all the poetry he had produced to that date and wrote as his rationale for abandoning his creativity that “by God’s grace… [he had] resolved to give up all beauty until [he] had His leave for it.” Luckily for us Hopkins found that leave because I’m not sure I could do without the words of his mature poems. But, then again, writing didn’t bring Hopkins consistent happiness. Throughout his life, writing or not, he suffered from extreme swings between euphoria and the darkest of moods which may be diagnosed as bipolar disorder using modern medical terminology. I love the point you make, Bekka, that consciously doing without writing is a form of self abuse. I certainly feel my life is a darker place when words are absent— or even when they’re misused— and it’s hard to think of a world without literature as anything other than a realm in which nihilism is given free rein to close in and to suffocate us. Dramatically put, I know, but I do think that would be the result of the cheapening or the disappearance of meaningful words. Having said that, I’d like to add to your observations that it is important not to fear going through a hiatus in either writing or reading. We should remember that as people with a lifelong relationship with letters it is perfectly okay to pace ourselves. Leave the sprinting to those who need to do disproportionately intense work for the few years it takes to get a degree, or solve a practical difficulty in the short term, or simply have enough knowledge and skills under their belts to be satisfied with their own literacy. If, on the other hand, we have chosen to take on a marathon, and if all this stuff is really the passion of our lives, then we should naturally expect periods of slowdown. Welcome them. Rest. Wait for the speed to pick up again.

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    • Bekka Lee Trapp says

      May 30, 2019 at 1:11 pm

      B. T., I couldn’t agree with you more! I love the example you used of Hopkins destroying his work (how terrible!) because I think that many writers do possess destructive and also constructive personality traits.

      Your response is beautiful in its awesome perception and wonderful commentary. You gave me new ideas to meditate over, but truly one I think worthy of repeating is accepting the variety of paces life gives us all.

      Thank you for reading and responding to my article. Your praise has both honored and humbled me!

      Reply
  2. Every Writer says

    May 30, 2019 at 3:23 pm

    Writing about writing is one of the reasons I wanted to start a community here on Every Writer. I love this piece Bekka, and I know a lot of writers feel exactly like you describe. A piece like this can be a great comfort to struggling writers.

    Reply
    • Bekka Lee Trapp says

      June 5, 2019 at 7:37 pm

      Thank you so much, you have no idea how much your kindness and support means to me!

      Reply
  3. Casey Minley says

    May 31, 2019 at 10:51 pm

    I’m glad I found your article. I tend to ruminate about controversial topics, and though I might eventually write about them, I avoid publishing my writing for fear of my content going viral. It’s a form of perfectionism.

    How do I overcome writing slumps? I’ve noticed that I get to the point where I simply can’t not write, and then I get a burst of expressiveness. It’s then that I get brave and publish. It’s cathartic no doubt.

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    • Bekka Lee Trapp says

      June 5, 2019 at 7:39 pm

      Casey, you make great points about writing as a release; it completely is one! I encourage you to write about your controversial topics, those are generally the ones that need to be voiced rather than the things that have been said over and over again already. Thank you for reading my article and responding!

      Reply

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